We reserve the right to not like each other’s points of view without hating the person.

Our temple covenants and commitments of love to each other have brought us thru many a disagreements.

And, heaven forbid, our kids have even seen us argue/disagree…and they’ve seen us resolve it too.

I had some experience with the cremation issue when I served as bishop. The stake president told me that it is based on local custom and law - some countries require cremation. But if someone is cremated in a city or state that allows burial I don’t think their salvation is in jeapordy.

I also find that sometimes a good night’s sleep helps us wake up with a fresh perspective where the seemingly huge issue that existed previously is really not such a big deal after all and love conquers all.

Of course my wife and I have never ever had an argument, so I’m speaking here purely from observation of all those other awful dirty evil people. Can’t we all just get along?

My parent’s version is don’t go to bed without Praying together. That one works better. How can one stay angry when praying? Wish we implemented it better, though.

I don’t see why suggestions in the “gray” area need to be debated, though. Yeah, some counsel may be wrong counsel at the time. But what if it’s good counsel at the right time? Yeah, changes things just a tad. I’ll put it this way: If someone feels they can pass their Temple recommend interview and take the Sacrament, then they are probably obeying the “commandments” and probably even following some “gray” counsel as well. But how easy is it to see some counsel as “gray” and realize too late that it should have been followed, gray or not?

It really comes down to personal revelation/confirmation. Especially if the counsel does come from a Bishop or Stake leader. Maybe even an Apostle. But the Prophet? I doubt there’s much “gray” there…Perhaps that’s why he’s the PROPHET?

(Okay, sorry. I really didn’t mean to be sarcastic! Just feeling this a little stronger than I had anticipated).