I have to agree with the point Dallas makes of not waiting on what a member will do for us. If everyone waits, nothing happens. I see a balance between the active member being concerned and sensitive toward the less-active member, and the less-active member being proactive himself. It takes both before much good can happen.
I hope for a little of both for your friend.]]>
My wife missed church for three weeks in a row (vacation, not feeling well). With no children and just me going to church, it was a lonely place. Sure my friends were there and that helped, but it was lonely sitting by myself in Sacrament meeting.
Your friend I’m sure has similar feelings. I wouldn’t like going to a new ward all alone. I’d probably sit in the back of each class and move on out as soon as things are over. And if I did attend and did that, no one would probably notice or talk to me and that would just compound the problem. And it would reinforce my feelings.
Dallas is right, when you finally decide to do it for the right reasons no matter what, then the other things don’t matter.]]>
It’s sad that this ht companion missed out on building the foundation for a friendship and some much needed fellowshipping.
My dad always said that the best way to make friends with someone is to ask them about themselves. Sadly, it seems like a skill most people lack.]]>
Also, I used the same reasons as your friend to not go to church. But what no knew but myself, is that I used those reasons to cover my real reasons why I didn’t go. The real reason I stopped going was I suffered from panic/anxiety and some serious sins. But as I relyed more on the Lord, my strength increased. Facing my fears is and will be the best thing I could do.
I pray for your friend. Tell him not all members are jerks.]]>