On a serious note (although I’m pretty serious about the above, no lie) I was so impressed with the simple testimony of that kid who’s an athlete. Can’t remember his name, but he’s been blogged about lately.
I’m totally down with the zen of everything.]]>
I am one of those people who is not “naturally friendly” and needs to actively cultivate friendships, otherwise I end up completely isolated from anyone, either in the Church or out.
A valuable missionary tool is “I don’t know”.
When a friend asks you about some point which you are uncomfortable about, or unsure of the “right” answer, or just don’t know how to begin the discussion, say “I don’t know.”
“But I know two full-time missionaries who do know.”]]>
And it’s a way ‘shy people’ can share without the social anxiety. I’m not saying this should be a replacement for ‘real-life’ missionary work, but it is an element of missionary work that our leaders have talked about and care about.]]>
I can honestly say that I have never, not even once, befriended someone so I could share the gospel.
I help and befriend simply because I either want that person’s friendship for whatever reason or because helping out is simply the right thing to do. Period. No strings attached.
Sounds like an ideal friendship. “I like you because of ‘whatever reason,’ and you like me because I will hide my primary guiding philosophy and religious identity in case you might disagree with it.” Win-win.
This one’s my favorite:
I hate visiting teaching so I don’t do it.]]>
I think that is a weakness and why many oustiders feel that Mormons are extremely insular and clique-ish. I think it’s too bad. Plus, when there is a conflict between a church activity and my kids’ needing me, kids win Every.Single.Time. For instance, I was doing Young Women’s but because I work fulltime on YW’s weekly activity nights, my kids wouldn’t see me usually until the next day because I went from work to YWs. I decided my kids needed to see me and that my priority was with them, not with the YW so I promptly asked to be released– without guilt.
The amount of time the church requires of its members is overwhelming and does leave little time for much else (not even family, let alone outside church friends). I think it’s OK to draw boundaries and say no. I think it astounding that the high school students are required (requested?) to spend 3+ hours in church on Sun, 2 hours weekly during YW/YM, 1.5 hours PER DAY 5days/week in seminary, PLUS other activities (i.e. camps). I will not “force” my kids to do all those things. They have sports and homework and family time and friend time and they need their sleep, too. Church will simply be “part” of the mix, not the priority in the mix.]]>