Having raised my kids, looking back, if I had to do it over, I’d skip that particular battle and just shut the door.
I was going to say I don’t know why I’ve become a slob in my old age (I was a pretty neat and clean teen) but then I remembered I work and I’m ill. Maybe teens are just stressed out. They get up early, they run all day, stay up late and catch up on their sleep on weekends.
So I’d probably just shut the door on their sloppy mess today. Yeah.]]>
College roomates, missionary companions, and the desire to have a somewhat neat living space should a female come over were much better devices for getting me out of messy habits than any allowance/threats from my parents.]]>
4 months? MONTHS????
But like mfranti’s daughter, ours gets good grades. She fills her free time with ballet, piano, cello and (it feels like) a bunch of youth activities. She cooks and sews for fun. She’s attentive to her appearance and sensitive to modesty. We may spoil her with some extra latitude like not having to maintain a perpetually immaculate room, but as I said, we pick our battles and this one’s nothing.
A 15-year-old in our ward from a good, active family recently had a baby. A 17-year-old in the other ward in our building killed himself last week. Do you really think I give a rodent’s derriere about driving home the correct principle of a teen’s tidy room?]]>
The only ways my kids really clean their rooms is if I help them, and they actually do appreciate the help. This past week we dropped some money at Ikea for shelving units, baskets, closet organizers, etc. The kids and I put them together. Now we just have to get the junk off the floors and move the piles in the closets into the storage containers!
Our house seems perpetually messy, but it never actually gets grimy, dirty, or smelly, thank goodness!]]>