If a dollar bill represents to you something you can do for yourself, then its bad. If it represents to you the power to help others, then its good. Its just a piece of paper with little intrinsic value. The value it has is how we individually and collectively feel about it. How do you feel about it?]]>
I do not feel that enjoying some of life’s pleasures or luxuries is needed to be felt guilty about; it helps us recharge our own batteries, soothe our own souls, create a relaxing environment for us, create a safe, comforting haven for our families, provide opportunities for recreation that both relax, and provide marvelous memories to be cherished, and many other productive positive things. So I don’t not feel or see the need so much to feel so guilty, because what helps me, in the end will help me have more resources inside from which to be of service to others.
I can’t tell you how much of a learning process it is, recently, through psychotherapy, and such, to learn that it is OK to enjoy things. It is OK. Man is, after all, that he might have joy.
Now, if that is ALL you do, there might be a problem, but again, just try to think of balance. There is a time and a place for play and enjoying “luxuries”, and times and places for being more serious, and sacrificing and such.
I’m not saying that’s doctrine, I just thought it was good advice.]]>
My parents had recarpeted the house and bought some new furniture (first time since we moved in 15 years before) while I was gone.
I remember feeling that the luxury to which I had returned was obscene, and that I did not deserve it in the least compared to the saints (LDS and of other faiths) who worked so hard and had so much less.
I’m somewhat sorry to say that I’m mostly over that guilt now, although I like to think that keeping my ’92 Camry running with my own labor until it exceeds my skills to fix is something I can do to demonstrate the gratitude Charity urges.]]>
Most are quite affluent. I think what you are doing, is grand.
If your heart feels comfortable, then you are in the right place.
I might reconsider the SUV. *chuckle*]]>
I find it interesting that you don’t feel you have sacrificed. I wonder if mothers feel that way too. Many stay home with their kids and while they enjoy it, they also give up income that might make some aspects of life better.
I think that you are in no way sinning as long as you are grateful for what you have. I also think it would be a noble action to give more (or to give more wisely).]]>