As for cliques/making friends, the transaction costs of finding and getting to know interesting people and then cultivating meaningful relationships with them are huge. It’s so much easier to hang out with people who live near you, and, obviously, with people with whom you share interests instead of never getting past the blah, blah, blah small talk.
So, it’s not necessarily about sizing people up and then affirmatively rejecting people who don’t fit your profile (which is what the people who feel left out might think), but it’s probably more about just kind of falling into relationships with people because it’s convenient.
Do we have an obligation to be best friends with everyone at Church? Nah. But I guess we do have an obligation to serve others and be nice to them. That said, I’ve found that some people at Church have more labor intensive definitions of what being “nice” to them is (i.e., inviting them over for dinner every Sunday, driving them to church, talking to you on the phone everday, cleaning their house, etc.).]]>
So Rusty, do your Brooklyn friends bring their own beverages?]]>
Did Christ have friends? Anytime you have a friend, it must – almost by virtue of the definition of friend – come at the expense of time and attention towards others. I imagine Christ probably got accusations of cliquishness. Perhaps because of his friendship with his disciples, or the family of Mary, Martha and Lazarus.]]>
I say if you don’t belong to a clique, start your own.]]>