And f.y.i. the statistics of straight people molesting children are much higher than homosexuals.]]>
This is why, I don’t think we should wait for Belgium, or Spain. We need to start, the sooner the better.]]>
Many relationships don’t need that support, but many others do.
Legalizing gay marriage would be a step towards showing social support for these kinds of relationships, which would help foster better and more long-lasting relationships, and also perhaps kindle the desire for many gay people to enter into such relationships.
Commitment, to my mind, is always preferable to the other, and yet commitment is hard for many, and perhaps even more difficult for those without legal and social support systems in place.]]>
“The right to marriage needs to be separated from potential parenting skills, I think.”
I don’t believe there is a need to separate this, as it is already clearly separate. However, as from the example of no-fault divorce, there are wide-ranging effects that these social policies regarding the decisions of two individuals “who are just minding their own business” make. I do not believe we should make these decisions quickly or lightly. Since we have the opportunity to observe the effects in other cultures, it might be appropriate to do so. Having said that, if it is wrong to legislate the difference, then it should be eradicated now. I just don’t know that it is morally wrong to legislate the difference.
Gay people who wish to marry now, can. They won’t get a certificate, but they can find a priest/minister/etc and hold a ceremony. Nothing tangible hinders them in doing this. Gay people have every right to fall in love, have lasting relationships, kiss, have sex, etc. The personal work of relationships is not dependent upon national decree and thank goodness for that.
For that matter, if it is an issue of legal rights, for issues pertaining to gay partners, it is my (somewhat ignorant) understanding that visitation rights, power of attorney rights, etc. can be given to one’s partner through proper legal documentation. The problem is that such things are given automatically to hetero couples with the marriage certificate. Is this fair? No. Should it be the case? I doubt it. But, if you love that person, are you willing to go through the rigomarole (sp?) for them? Probably.
So, is it about marriage or is it about the legal rights surrounding marriage?]]>
And what will that judgment be based on, exactly? That if the children didn’t turn out gay, the parents were successful?
The right to marriage needs to be separated from potential parenting skills, I think.
And I don’t think we should wait and watch Canada, Spain, Belgium, and the rest of the civilized world to see how they dealt with gay marriage, before we give the opportunity. Gay people who wish to marry now, should.]]>
You are right that we don’t have the social institutions to support gay marriage here (although I have serious doubts that legislation will dispel the bias that makes things thus).]]>
Well, I’m glad we’ve cleared that up.]]>