I’m glad I clicked on your comment because that is a fascinating point of view:) I like it a lot. It goes along with our goal (and many other societies, of course) of reaching a Zionistic society. (i.e.–Of one heart and one mind. See Moses 7:18)]]>
For schools, teachers routinely do go the extra mile. But our base expectation is that each child will get an education It would be inseemly for one parent to bribe a teacher for differential treatment. Not only is there the meritocracy referred to earlier, but teachers have enormous sway over the future our children have. The kids get all A’s, Harvard here we come, B’s and C’s, not so much. This starts early on. In my school, you were either in track one, (the smart kids), track two (average) or track 3 (remedial). This started in first grade, and not many kids changed out of it. While no one is arguing that money can’t buy a better education, it is uncouth to be so obvious about it.
I am sorry that you don’t get better “tips” at your school. Though i think some of what i experienced has gone by the wayside, as it is considered a bribe to give such lavish gifts.
But getting back on track. one approach is that Our attitude towards others differentiates between cheap and frugal. Cheap towards others is cheap, cheap to ourselves is frugal. Another approach is that it comes down to values. If you approve of the category being scrimped on it is frugal, if not, it is cheap.]]>
However, you missed my point about tipping teachers. You’ve made a faulty assumption when you said “If we allow parents to tip, then aren’t we saying that the parents who tip will get a superior education for their kids?” The way things are now, in case you haven’t noticed, tipping is not optional. Why would it be optional for parents to tip teachers? It’s not optional for me to tip the hairdresser; it’s expected. (And why should we have to bribe anyone to do their job properly? Shouldn’t a valet or maitre d’ treat everyone with courtesy?)
(And no, teachers don’t get tipped anyway! I don’t know anyone who pulls in that kind of booty. Maybe a plant or some bubble bath….)
Yeah, mandatory tipping for each lesson I provide. That’s the ticket! :-)]]>