When my Sarah was little, her best friends were the bi-racial twins our neighbor adopted. She has brown hair and green eyes and one day she came in and said, “Me and Keoke and Tarah wish we weren’t bwown. We wish we looked like Bawbie.” I don’t remember when or even if I ever told her they were black. I recall one time when she was a teenager discussing an incident when they were treated badly at school, so she must have realized it sometime.
I know I’ve shared that, it’s just for those who haven’t heard it. I’m starting to be that little old lady who tells the same story over and over again.
Dane, Marvin J. Ashton was the first general authority I saw in real life after I became active. He was so human it gave me hope. He spoke of a member named Roger who was sort of his stalker and annoyed him immensely.]]>
I have employees who are J.W.s, Born Agains, and whatevers, they all know I’m Mormon but religion isn’t a thing that’s brought up or even mentioned much at all.
I agree that mainstream culture IS white culture. That culture however has all the other cultures mixed in as well. That white culture is inclusive of the others, maybe not as inclusive as they would like. Considering the population percentage most are more than fairly represented. That certainly is not the case with the NCAAP awards – they exclude all races except blacks.
Think of the outcry if we had a truly all white awards show!
I guess my gripe and consern is on the one hand the blacks want to be treated fairly and equal with the rest of society but on the other hand they want to be seperated by distingushing themselves with their own culture and their own labels and their own awards.]]>
I had a similar experience with Emma when we lived in Brooklyn. I don’t remember the details now, but it was clear to me that she simply did not associate skin color with the labels “black” and “white.”
What I get tired of is their making a big deal out of their race.
I think this comment reflects the perspective of one who lives comfortably in the majority. Minorities have historically tried to “pass” as white. We no longer expect them to do that, we just want them to “cover” instead — that is, behave in a way that conforms to majority culture and behavior. Many don’t want to do that.
Could someone say of you, “I get tired of him making a big deal out of his religion”?]]>
Culture is the true king of differences and similarities.]]>
Don, I hear this quite a bit among “European Americans”:) I personally think these labels are pretty dumb becasue they just aren’t consistent or acurate. For example my friend from Mexico City is whiter than I (an American of Welsh descent) am yet she’s called “latino” and I’m “white”. BUT if someone wants to be called something I don’t see the problem in calling them that. Personally I don’t like to be called a “mormon” (Latter-Day Saint would be better) and it would be great if people would respect that.
Also, I once heard a friend of mine say that the reason Americans of African descent make such a big deal out of their race is because white people have been doing it for hundreds of years.]]>
I was in an all white H.S. until my senior year when they bussed in several black kids. Bob Bas, one of those black kids bussed in became a friend of mine.
Deep down I have nothing against black, or other races. What I get tired of is their making a big deal out of their race. I think it does effect the relationships of our young people when they constantly hear about “African Americans”. It’s too bad but I personally have seen a lot of progress.
Kids very seldom see a color line or color barrier – it’s the adults who see them and then pass that on to their kids. We are the ones that have to becareful too.]]>