I just heard on the news that they’ve developed a test whereby both men and women can find out how “fertile” they are. A real concern for aging couples who want to have kids. Now you can actually get a sense of how likely childbirth is for you without just sitting around with vague anxiety that “your biological clock is ticking down.”
About time says I.]]>
The key is, I think, that people don’t feel spiritually COMPELLED to take on more children than they can parent in a loving way, so they don’t do it.]]>
For me, though, the biggest reason we probably won’t have a big family is that I don’t feel like I’ll be able to be a good mother to more than four or so. And I don’t mean we won’t be able to give them Chinese lessons. I want my kids to be able to have the kind of childhood I did, where Mommy reads stories, teaches the kids to read, to cook, to clean, listens to how everyone’s day went, attends everyone’s performances/sports meets, and just generally makes everyone feel loved and supported. My mom was able to do this for eight children. I don’t think I can.]]>
From reading the comments here is seems that many would think that I’m not able to give enough attention to each child. And it is true that two would get more individual attention from ME than eight do.
But if you could see how much my small kids love their big siblings, how they jump up and down with excitement when the big ones come home from school. And how the big kids love their little siblings, how they let them have ‘sleepovers’ in their rooms, how they read stories and play with them, and take pictures of them and laugh with them! (Today my oldest, who is home from college for the summer, is going on a fieldtrip with her kindergarten brother!) There is lots of love between them, and I think that more then makes up for having eight children sharing my attention.
I’m in the Bay Area, yes. We just moved here, though, from Provo…I’m assuming you’re down south? Email me! cssavage at gmail dot com…
I don’t think Don was making a nasty judgement –I think he really was concerned and interested as to why this generation of LDS couples are having less children (and regardless of how anyone spins it, they are.)
Don, would I be correct in that assumption…?
If you really know the couple in question really well, you may actually have quite good basis for judging them. It’s a big if, but it does happen.
I don’t personally know anyone well enough to judge on that. But some people do…]]>