I do enjoy a good discussion (argument), but having been a socially awkward teenager, I had (maybe have) a hard time figuring out the correct time and place and person and even emotional approach to having these discussions (arguments).
I don’t know what I mean exactly, like there are some people with whom you can have a rousing discussion and it’s all in good fun, and others where messy feelings get involved and there’s all this emotional fall out. And I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older, and been trying to get myself some social skills, I’ve sometimes avoided the first kind of discussion because I want to avoid the latter at all cost.
Obviously the internet makes low-cost arguing easier, because you can pick fights er I mean engage in discussions with people and not worry about potential emotional fall out. Unless you go and build a community and start having complex cyber relationships. Not that we would do that or anything.
I think that idea is where the Christ-like argument problem comes into play for me. I can throughly enjoy an argument if I feel like all participants are somewhat detached, sincere perhaps, but not taking things personally. But when I worry that the other person is hurting, or if I start to hurt, then while the argument is still often compelling (because one does like to be right) it’s no longer harmless. Or something.
I don’t know, since I’ve never been very good at keeping my own emotions out the “discussion” it’s probably better for me to just avoid them all together, but then where’s the fun in that?]]>
Ultimate revenge of a parent: watching your children be parents. I get it now, why my mother has a slight cackle to her laugh whenever I talk about “how am I going to survive this?!” :)
It bothers me when we do that you too.]]>
Guys like you in high school drove me CRAZY! Your poor sister…
I actually think most Evangelicals are not even that interested in arguing with Mormons. Most no very little about Mormonism. The ones you’ve more likely encountered aren’t interested in arguing as much as they are in telling Mormons that they have been “served notice” that they’re going to hell.]]>