I think there’s a high correlation between being a social misfit and intelligence.
Your dessert night sounds great. That’s wonderful that you invited others without waiting for others to invite you first. I wish more members, especially singles, did that.]]>
A poetry reading night would be really fun. Our stake had an open mic night, mostly teenagers singing and playing electric guitars, but it was also neat to see the little old ladies who got up to read poems or sing. There were some investigators who sang, too.]]>
My sister who is a wind instrament, but not neccessarily a piccolo is our new activities committee chair. I suggested a a poetry night, and we had one–where you could read anything (a shampoo bottle if you wanted). It was surprising well-attended, and most of our readers/performers were of the non-piccolo variety. It was the first activity in years that I loved. So, I would reccomend a non-piccolo to run the activities committee–or a few on the committee at least. Once they get over their horror of the idea of the activities committee, they start planning great activities.]]>
As far as relationships in church, the main things that I find keep me connected are the activities, be as fully participating as you can.
Another connecting thing, to counteract the misfit-ness, you and DH could do all your HT/VT-ing to make and keep contacts, and encourage your HTers and VTers to visit you every month. HT-ing and VT-ing are great for developing people/social skills.
Yeah, your VTer/HTers and the people you visit/home-teach are assigned friends, but then that’s a good excuse for people who don’t make friends easily. “Aha! You _have_ to be my friend now! Bwa ha ha!”]]>
While not appearing very misfit-ish, I have certainly felt like one all of my life in the church. One of the great things about being married with kids is we form our own little tribe. As long as they accept me, I’m ok. I agree that muct be much harder for the single and childless….]]>
T, I’m sure anyone without kids (and also singles) feel really left out in general.
Thanks for the comments, everyone. kwk: I wish you were in our ward. :)]]>