Bret also said the most important thing: “The person hermself (just as real a word as “themself” – how about we go back to using “him- or herself”) needs the intrinsic motivation…”
Unmarried people: Don’t get married to a person, who isn’t willing to improve.
And then if and when you are married, don’t berate and compare your spouse to others that seem to do one or two things better than your spouse. (The hypothetical brother of the hypothetical wife in the story probably watches porn or something else. Nobody’s perfect…)]]>
Either way, I’m not worrying about it.]]>
Men marry women, hoping they’ll never change but they do;
Women marry men, hoping they’ll change but they never do.
The point is, it seems like there’s something dangerous about the pervasive idea that women shape their husbands into CEOs or bishops or that men do something similar to their wives. Is one purpose of marriage to make your spouse into something other than they are, even if that something else is better?]]>