Comments on: Male Bonding http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960 Tue, 21 May 2013 21:34:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: lamonte http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82343 lamonte Mon, 11 May 2009 17:15:52 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82343 MCQ - Sorry for the delayed answer. I've been out of town. The friends my wife spends time with were all aquired since our marriage. We moved across the country 21 years ago but we were married 35 years ago. We still maintain friendships from our former place of residence but once again, those are our mutual friends, not specific to one of the other. I think my issue stems back to high school. Without getting into the details I had a major blowout with my two best friends when we were seniors. I was dating my wife at the time and so I spent that last semester of high school mainly with her or by myself. Maybe I've just been afraid to foster close friendships since that happened. I had friends in college - before I got married. Two of my classmates live in disparate parts of the country but we maintain contact at Christmas or on other occasions with an occasional phone call. I guess what I'm saying is that I like my current situation. You're probably right that I'm missing out. I travel on a regular basis with work associates and I would call these folks friends. We have an enjoyable time as we travel and I'm glad they are with me but we don't get together otherwise. But I'm OK with that. MCQ – Sorry for the delayed answer. I’ve been out of town. The friends my wife spends time with were all aquired since our marriage. We moved across the country 21 years ago but we were married 35 years ago. We still maintain friendships from our former place of residence but once again, those are our mutual friends, not specific to one of the other.

I think my issue stems back to high school. Without getting into the details I had a major blowout with my two best friends when we were seniors. I was dating my wife at the time and so I spent that last semester of high school mainly with her or by myself. Maybe I’ve just been afraid to foster close friendships since that happened. I had friends in college – before I got married. Two of my classmates live in disparate parts of the country but we maintain contact at Christmas or on other occasions with an occasional phone call.

I guess what I’m saying is that I like my current situation. You’re probably right that I’m missing out. I travel on a regular basis with work associates and I would call these folks friends. We have an enjoyable time as we travel and I’m glad they are with me but we don’t get together otherwise. But I’m OK with that.

]]> By: MCQ http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82213 MCQ Fri, 08 May 2009 16:03:58 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82213 Sam, you should probably seek professional help. You have a problem. AJ, if I were the EQ Pres. I would really appreciate hearing those concerns. Sam, you should probably seek professional help. You have a problem.

AJ, if I were the EQ Pres. I would really appreciate hearing those concerns.

]]> By: AJ http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82210 AJ Fri, 08 May 2009 15:09:25 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82210 I have never thought that marriage meant you had no need for outside friendships. I would love for my husband to have more friendships at church and don't mind him spending time with the guys at all. Being raised on a farm, he knows how to fix just about anything and is handy with simple car repairs as well. I remember years ago, he was shocked when a neighbor came to him asking how to change a doorknob. I know he would be more than willing to share his knowledge at a "manrichment" if we had them. He has a lot of other practicial skills he could share but is never given the opportunity. On the other hand, he joined the church in his thirties therefore missing out on a mission and other experiences that teach men how to use their priesthood, lead their families etc. He could really benefit from some mentoring from others who have had more of those experiences that prepare men for their role in the church. He is in his fifies, still in EQ and honestly that program has done nothing to help further his progress. I have never thought that marriage meant you had no need for outside friendships. I would love for my husband to have more friendships at church and don’t mind him spending time with the guys at all.
Being raised on a farm, he knows how to fix just about anything and is handy with simple car repairs as well. I remember years ago, he was shocked when a neighbor came to him asking how to change a doorknob. I know he would be more than willing to share his knowledge at a “manrichment” if we had them. He has a lot of other practicial skills he could share but is never given the opportunity. On the other hand, he joined the church in his thirties therefore missing out on a mission and other experiences that teach men how to use their priesthood, lead their families etc. He could really benefit from some mentoring from others who have had more of those experiences that prepare men for their role in the church.

He is in his fifies, still in EQ and honestly that program has done nothing to help further his progress.

]]> By: sam http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82181 sam Thu, 07 May 2009 20:36:22 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82181 I'd rather go to no activities, period. I really don't want to see anyone other than my family, or maybe friends that I knew from long ago who now live far away. But really, I hate being around people, save for my wife and kids. It annoys me. I am embarrassed by the way people are and embarrassed to know that I am that way as well. So just leave me alone. Don't call, don't visit. I’d rather go to no activities, period. I really don’t want to see anyone other than my family, or maybe friends that I knew from long ago who now live far away. But really, I hate being around people, save for my wife and kids. It annoys me. I am embarrassed by the way people are and embarrassed to know that I am that way as well. So just leave me alone. Don’t call, don’t visit.

]]> By: Bridget Jack Meyers http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82138 Bridget Jack Meyers Wed, 06 May 2009 20:00:41 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82138 Nuts. The code to show code doesn't work at 9M. Oh well. Guess it will forever be a mystery to you. Nuts. The code to show code doesn’t work at 9M.

Oh well. Guess it will forever be a mystery to you.

]]> By: Bridget Jack Meyers http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82137 Bridget Jack Meyers Wed, 06 May 2009 19:59:46 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82137 #38 <strong>me</strong> ~ I hear non-member spouses are the pits. #39 <strong>Misty-Seth</strong> ~ It's HTML symbol code. Only true nerds know it off the top of their heads. ♪ = ♪ ♫ = ♫ ♬ = ♬ In case we needed more proof of what I really am... ♥ #38 me ~ I hear non-member spouses are the pits.

#39 Misty-Seth ~ It’s HTML symbol code. Only true nerds know it off the top of their heads.

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In case we needed more proof of what I really am… ♥

]]> By: TStevens http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82121 TStevens Wed, 06 May 2009 13:10:02 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82121 We have had good luck in getting nonmember husbad participation. Everyone likes movies or throwing dodgeballs. I try to use a three part system/ladder for activities. Social Service Spiritual Bonding the group requires a lot of social activities first, especially a fractured one. Then we add some service events and so on. It wouldn't be menrichment if we had girls at Halo, would it. But they play enough that there are plenty of other opportunities. With the D&D - they let anyone in anytime. If you are near Minnesota they meet up in their basements once a week. We have had good luck in getting nonmember husbad participation. Everyone likes movies or throwing dodgeballs.
I try to use a three part system/ladder for activities.
Social
Service
Spiritual

Bonding the group requires a lot of social activities first, especially a fractured one. Then we add some service events and so on.

It wouldn’t be menrichment if we had girls at Halo, would it. But they play enough that there are plenty of other opportunities. With the D&D – they let anyone in anytime. If you are near Minnesota they meet up in their basements once a week.

]]> By: MCQ http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82109 MCQ Wed, 06 May 2009 06:48:59 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82109 Kim, I'm glad to hear that, despite appearances, you haven't sacrificed your guy things. Protect that junk at all costs. Seth, quit bragging about using your wife's settings. This is a family blog. Kim, I’m glad to hear that, despite appearances, you haven’t sacrificed your guy things. Protect that junk at all costs.

Seth, quit bragging about using your wife’s settings. This is a family blog.

]]> By: Hunter http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82108 Hunter Wed, 06 May 2009 06:47:13 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82108 Our EQ thankfully gets around all the fuss about not including the wives/kids, etc., by having plenty of unofficial get-togethers: Sunday Night Football, basketball at the church, movies, and flag football are the most common. Notices are sent by email via a Yahoo group. It would be nice to have a formal "menrichment" activity sometime. But, I'm not complaining; we've got it pretty good. Our EQ thankfully gets around all the fuss about not including the wives/kids, etc., by having plenty of unofficial get-togethers: Sunday Night Football, basketball at the church, movies, and flag football are the most common. Notices are sent by email via a Yahoo group.

It would be nice to have a formal “menrichment” activity sometime. But, I’m not complaining; we’ve got it pretty good.

]]> By: Seth R. http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960&cpage=1#comment-82103 Seth R. Wed, 06 May 2009 05:13:14 +0000 http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=960#comment-82103 Sorry, that post by "Misty" above was mine. I was using my wife's settings. Sorry, that post by “Misty” above was mine.

I was using my wife’s settings.

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