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	<title>Comments on: Non-Members at the Wedding and a Fair Deal</title>
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		<title>By: gatorade momma</title>
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		<dc:creator>gatorade momma</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Aug 2009 06:36:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My mother and sister could not attend my wedding in the Temple and my Mom was so against making any todo about any event in one&#039;s life it didn&#039;t matter to her. I&#039;m sure she would have &quot;liked&quot; to have gone in to see the inside of the temple but not necessarily me taking my vows....that aside, I do know of non-members or LDS without recommends who felt left out.

Years later I worked in the wedding business field and I think a lot of the being left out is the hype, especially that girls get, on making the bride &quot;princess for a day&quot; and the expectations get very high...and often expensive.

I think the church likes to encourage us to be a little simpler and focused on the commmitments we are making and enjoy the day.  However, you can&#039;t just leave folks out! Some of you have shared that years later there is still hurt and other smuggly state it didn&#039;t bother the non-worthy to attend folks one bit.  

I personally would prefer to see us trend to get married at home or other venue if needed/desired (as the church is NEVER going to encourage chapel weddings)in a simple ceremony and year later go to the temple...make it something to work for, real meaningful temple marriage preparation classes to complete and prepare with.  

Folks could either have a big 1st year anniversary party with everyone invited or have a big party/celebration...or small one...whatever the day they get married...or both (good for the wedding industry...lol.)  

Bottom line, make it easier for the couple to postpone the temple ceremony when it will hurt family members...even if the family members say it doesn&#039;t bother them.  My mother is probably the only exception in the world &amp; she was also happy because the temple part was all free.

One last thing...waiting a year would probably cut back on temple divorces, too.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My mother and sister could not attend my wedding in the Temple and my Mom was so against making any todo about any event in one&#8217;s life it didn&#8217;t matter to her. I&#8217;m sure she would have &#8220;liked&#8221; to have gone in to see the inside of the temple but not necessarily me taking my vows&#8230;.that aside, I do know of non-members or LDS without recommends who felt left out.</p>
<p>Years later I worked in the wedding business field and I think a lot of the being left out is the hype, especially that girls get, on making the bride &#8220;princess for a day&#8221; and the expectations get very high&#8230;and often expensive.</p>
<p>I think the church likes to encourage us to be a little simpler and focused on the commmitments we are making and enjoy the day.  However, you can&#8217;t just leave folks out! Some of you have shared that years later there is still hurt and other smuggly state it didn&#8217;t bother the non-worthy to attend folks one bit.  </p>
<p>I personally would prefer to see us trend to get married at home or other venue if needed/desired (as the church is NEVER going to encourage chapel weddings)in a simple ceremony and year later go to the temple&#8230;make it something to work for, real meaningful temple marriage preparation classes to complete and prepare with.  </p>
<p>Folks could either have a big 1st year anniversary party with everyone invited or have a big party/celebration&#8230;or small one&#8230;whatever the day they get married&#8230;or both (good for the wedding industry&#8230;lol.)  </p>
<p>Bottom line, make it easier for the couple to postpone the temple ceremony when it will hurt family members&#8230;even if the family members say it doesn&#8217;t bother them.  My mother is probably the only exception in the world &amp; she was also happy because the temple part was all free.</p>
<p>One last thing&#8230;waiting a year would probably cut back on temple divorces, too.</p>
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		<title>By: Bridget Jack Meyers</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85841</link>
		<dc:creator>Bridget Jack Meyers</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Jul 2009 19:01:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;strong&gt;GB&lt;/strong&gt; ~ &lt;em&gt;Is that what you think “harlots” dress like?&lt;/em&gt;

Of course not. But we already know &lt;a href=&quot;http://markcares.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/jesus-my-creditor/#comment-2663&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;it&#039;s what &lt;em&gt;you&lt;/em&gt; think&lt;/a&gt;: &quot;Add a little makeup [to women in tanktops] and you too can look like a whore.&quot;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>GB</strong> ~ <em>Is that what you think “harlots” dress like?</em></p>
<p>Of course not. But we already know <a href="http://markcares.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/jesus-my-creditor/#comment-2663" rel="nofollow">it&#8217;s what <em>you</em> think</a>: &#8220;Add a little makeup [to women in tanktops] and you too can look like a whore.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>By: GB</title>
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		<dc:creator>GB</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:29:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jack,

Is that what they were?  Is that what you think &quot;harlots&quot; dress like?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jack,</p>
<p>Is that what they were?  Is that what you think &#8220;harlots&#8221; dress like?</p>
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		<title>By: Bridget Jack Meyers</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85736</link>
		<dc:creator>Bridget Jack Meyers</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2009 22:12:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yeah, GB. I&#039;m sure all those harlots in strappy, above-the-knee dresses damn near gave you a heart attack.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yeah, GB. I&#8217;m sure all those harlots in strappy, above-the-knee dresses damn near gave you a heart attack.</p>
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		<title>By: GB</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85731</link>
		<dc:creator>GB</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2009 21:48:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jack,

After watching the video I can honestly tell you that I would very much prefer the Temple ceremony to THAT!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jack,</p>
<p>After watching the video I can honestly tell you that I would very much prefer the Temple ceremony to THAT!</p>
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		<title>By: Bridget Jack Meyers</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85662</link>
		<dc:creator>Bridget Jack Meyers</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2009 02:24:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8DCt3Lmi28

If it disappears again, search YouTube for &quot;Jill &amp; Kevin Heinz wedding.&quot; Lots of people are spreading the video and it&#039;s getting pulled from some links.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8DCt3Lmi28" rel="nofollow">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8DCt3Lmi28</a></p>
<p>If it disappears again, search YouTube for &#8220;Jill &amp; Kevin Heinz wedding.&#8221; Lots of people are spreading the video and it&#8217;s getting pulled from some links.</p>
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		<title>By: GB</title>
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		<dc:creator>GB</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2009 21:22:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jack,

What happened to the link?  Video is gone.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jack,</p>
<p>What happened to the link?  Video is gone.</p>
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		<title>By: MCQ</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85478</link>
		<dc:creator>MCQ</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 25 Jul 2009 08:37:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jack, pure awesomeness!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jack, pure awesomeness!</p>
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		<title>By: Bridget Jack Meyers</title>
		<link>http://www.nine-moons.com/?p=968&#038;cpage=3#comment-85462</link>
		<dc:creator>Bridget Jack Meyers</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 25 Jul 2009 01:05:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NbxnfGvEojg&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;This is the real reason everyone should want a ceremony outside of the temple&lt;/a&gt;.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NbxnfGvEojg" rel="nofollow">This is the real reason everyone should want a ceremony outside of the temple</a>.</p>
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		<title>By: MCQ</title>
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		<dc:creator>MCQ</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Jul 2009 05:16:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>No worries, coventry.  You&#039;re right about the actual practice, if not the intentions, of fellowshipping/friendshipping and it&#039;s one of the big reasons why we have such a hard time doing it.  It feels disingenuous, even to us.  I would rather that we didn&#039;t even talk about it.  The real principle is that we should try to be friends with as many people as possible.  Period.  If you do that, then the people you are already friends with will let you know when and if they want to talk about the church etc.  There&#039;s no need for a program.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>No worries, coventry.  You&#8217;re right about the actual practice, if not the intentions, of fellowshipping/friendshipping and it&#8217;s one of the big reasons why we have such a hard time doing it.  It feels disingenuous, even to us.  I would rather that we didn&#8217;t even talk about it.  The real principle is that we should try to be friends with as many people as possible.  Period.  If you do that, then the people you are already friends with will let you know when and if they want to talk about the church etc.  There&#8217;s no need for a program.</p>
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