Lots of people wear white shirts, ties and are well shaven…
I agree though that not everyone is as they seem. I too am close to someone who was abused. It wasn’t by a bishop, but it was by a bishop’s son, and it was basically swept under the rug by two bishops who believed the bishop’s son over the person I know.]]>
Because of that bad experience from an abusive bishop, I have always worn a beard and rarely wear white shirts to church. For my friend, the “uniform of the priesthood” is unfortunately also the “uniform of her abuser.” It probably means I will spend my whole life as an elder, since most callings you have that make you a high priest require comformity to the dress standards of a very evil man.]]>
“Hey, Rusty, you’re a guy, as are most of the commenters on this thread.”
The question is why you think that matters so very much.]]>
I would like one of my defaults to be _my defaults are in need of adaptation._ And one of my personality traits, _I can suspend my defaults._
Since defaults are not truth,- they are a combination of our wishes, subjective sensibilities, mingled with experience often seen through our defaults,- we are not truth seekers except to the degree that we can suspend and adapt our defaults. I think that probably we can’t expect answers to prayers,- which by definition bring additional light and truth and therefore force a modification of our defaults,- unless we have some ability to suspend our defaults. We are probably only able to get from the Lord information where our defaults are adaptable. Otherwise, we are the man with one talent – fixed, fearful, fundamental. There is the Liahona side.
Here comes the Iron Rod. But by adapting I say adapting, not tossing our defaults out the window the first time they are challenged by experience or information, true or false. It seems to me that virtually all defaults contain an element of truth, even if that truth looms large only in our own experience. It isn’t as if reality is unknowable, only that it is difficult to know. It is just as essential to stand by known true experiences as it is to be willing to adapt. Otherwise we will be victims of our sensibilities the other way: always learning and never coming to a knowledge of the truth, tossed about by every wind of doctrine, etc. Our store of truth should grow not merely shift from this to that. The little thread of truth becomes a rope or truth becomes the iron rod of truth until our whole existence is bathed in light.
Also, we don’t just have a handful of defaults but our whole way of experiencing, feeling thinking doing, is riddled with defaults both acknowledged and unconscious.
Groovy. Thanks for the exercise. ~]]>
I actually find it kind of astonishing that you’re getting your back up at women trying to protect their kids.
That’s an excellent example of completely misreading someone, presumably because of your defaults, djinn. It’s such a complete misrepresentation it’s hard to imagine it’s not intentional.]]>
I actually find it kind of astonishing that you’re getting your back up at women trying to protect their kids.]]>