Over at Ned’s blog, VivaNedFlanders there was an interesting discussion going on regarding Ned’s experience as a premarital fornicator. He’s now married to that person and has never been with anyone else. He asks, “what’s the big deal?”
Before we proceed I’d like to offer a couple caveats:
First of all, I’m not interested in the answer, “Because God says so.” I understand He says so, but then the discussion is over with and that’s no fun. I want to understand WHY God says so.
Secondly, unless you can come up with a really good reason God would make us promise something for no good reason, neither am I interested in the answer, “broken promise”. Besides, I can’t imagine His will for us to be faithful to only one person is just a “test”. There’s got to be more than that.
Thirdly, this is not a justification of any kind, I have not fornicated and am not looking to, I just think it’s an interesting issue that isn’t often discussed without those first two answers being thrown around.
I see it this way: we are divine creatures who are given divine powers to beget more divine creatures. The order of Heaven (or the Universe, or Kolob, or whatever you want to call it) is that the male creature and the female creature may continue to do this forever only if they make some sort of promise (which is a reflection of their true will) to do it together. The physical (and in many ways spiritual) act of creating is only to take place when those promises have been made. The result of which is a loving relationship between male/female and also between parent/child. And that’s what Heaven is, it’s loving relationships.
Not watertight, I know, but I took a shot. Where I come into trouble is that Ned and Maude could have made a promise as well, just not a state-sponsored one. Before I was married I used to wonder what I would do if I were stuck on a desert island with my girlfriend (not wife). I concluded that because I was the governor of the island I would act as the judge and sign the legal documents and marry us. That way there’s no fornication going on.
What’s your take?
(Note: this topic has the potential to delve into the obscene, the too-much-information, the lewd, and the too-sacred-for-a-blog… so please don’t go there, I don’t want to have to delete comments.)