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Giving and Receiving

MCQ - December 24, 2010

At Christmas, we all hear that it is better to give than receive, and so we look for ways to give.  We strain our budgets to give to our children family and friends, sometimes with gifts that we know will be little used and not long remembered.  We want to give, so we do it anyway, because it’s traditional and because we want to honor the savior and the greatest gift of all.  It is right that we should do this, especially if we find meaningful ways to give to those who are truly in need.

But sometimes we need to be reminded how to receive as well.  This Christmas has been one of learning to receive for me and for my family, because my wife has had to undergo surgery and, though she is recovering well, she is unable to move much and so, as members of our church do, our ward members have given us many good meals and visits and wonderful wishes and prayers.  It requires some humility to receive rather than give.  I think most of us are much more comfortable being the giver than the receiver, but it is good for us to be reminded that we are all recipients of the freely given gifts of God, our Heavenly Father, who gave us his son, not because we earned it or deserved it, but simply because he loves us.  I have felt that love this Christmas and I wish that feeling for all of you on this holy Christmas eve.  Merry Christmas.


  1. I hope your wife continues to recover, MCQ.

    I think you’re exactly right about having humility to receive. I remember in the last ward my wife and I lived in, my wife gave and gave and served and served, but was reluctant to ask for help for anything. I remember that she joked with me that it was the hectic craziness of getting ready to move that finally made her feel like she could ask and receive for help. And our friends were hugely helpful during that time. But it did take humility to receive, to admit we needed it.

    Comment by Ziff — December 26, 2010 @ 8:52 am

  2. Wishing your wife well for a speedy recovery, MCQ. It is hard to receive, I agree. I never feel worthy of such blessings – it’s really hard.

    Comment by meems — December 26, 2010 @ 11:59 am

  3. Receiving is serving, too, because you’re allowing others the opportunity to give.

    Hope your wife is better soon!

    Comment by Susan M — December 27, 2010 @ 9:23 am

  4. Thanks all for your kind words.

    Comment by MCQ — December 27, 2010 @ 10:17 am

  5. I am reading this over a month after the fact, but I really enjoyed this short and lovely post. I had a similar experience this Christmas. My siblings all have more money than I do right now and gave me incredibly generous gifts. I wish I could give more to them, but I also am grateful for how they want to help me and make me feel loved.

    Comment by AB — February 6, 2011 @ 3:14 pm

  6. Thanks AB.

    Comment by MCQ — February 6, 2011 @ 6:31 pm

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