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A Good Reason to Hate Feminism

Rusty - July 5, 2011

Whether or not the feminist movement is responsible for limiting my access to my wife’s accounts, I’m going to blame them anyway. Yes, you are individuals who aren’t lorded over by your husband, I get it. But you know what, my wife is a little busy right now and needs me to update her account but because of your stupid little quest for equality you’ve made both of our lives worse. There’s a reason she asked me to take care of it and it’s not because she wants to schlepp two kids into the city and take care of it herself. Or get on the phone to “give permission” that I make changes to our JOINT ACCOUNT!

Hey feminists, if you would have stopped at the gender pay gap, we’d still be cool. But this is ridiculous.


  1. Um, something’s wrong here. If it’s a joint account you should both be able to make changes to it. I don’t get why you would need permission unless it’s her sole account. Explain.

    Comment by MCQ — July 5, 2011 @ 9:49 pm

  2. On top of that, feminism is not the culprit here. Privacy laws are. People want privacy in theory, but when they can’t find out what room their friend is in in the hospital, or easily make changes to bank accounts or benefits accounts or find out medical information for a family member, the inconvenience factor trumps all those privacy concerns fast. But again, none of that is the result of feminism.

    Comment by MCQ — July 5, 2011 @ 9:52 pm

  3. MCQ is right, blame the privacy laws.

    Comment by Niklas — July 5, 2011 @ 11:20 pm

  4. it is privacy laws, but also the thing is that a woman needs to be protected from her husband if ever something bad happens between them. Should he have a right to all her accounts without her approval? How would a bank, or a doctor’s office, or anything else like that know of what the relationship is between the husband and wife? They would have no idea.

    Comment by Dan — July 6, 2011 @ 4:57 am

  5. I agree that there seems to be some missing information here that has nothing to do with feminism. Why didn’t you simply set up an account with both names on it? I ran into a similar problem with my son’s account. He went off to Asia for a few months and began having problems with his bank card. Because the account was in his name only, I couldn’t have access. So we got the documents to change things, which wasn’t easy considering that he was in Cambodia, but we did it. It was dumb of me to let him go off without a joint account, but at least I arranged for him to have a credit card with both our names on it.

    Comment by don — July 6, 2011 @ 4:59 am

  6. I’d suggest that you direct your hatred toward banks, and bankers. They’re an easy target.

    Comment by Mark B. — July 6, 2011 @ 6:21 am

  7. It’s just like a feminist to blame the privacy laws.

    MCQ (and don), are you seriously going to tell me that every joint account you’ve opened with your wife you have both had access from the get-go? I doubt it. At some point we all have to do this ridiculous song-and-dance where you write a letter to give permission for the spouse to make changes or whatever. It’s the most asinine system. If I put both names on it, especially if we’re spouses, then we should both have access to make changes.

    Regarding the feminism vs. privacy laws, you’re surely right. But it’s been a few months since I complained about feminists and we all have our quotas to fill.

    Dan, so is it privacy laws or is it protecting women?

    Mark B, banks and bankers are just at the mercy of the feminists and privacy laws!!

    Comment by Rusty — July 6, 2011 @ 7:11 am

  8. More than one bank has done things for my wife related to our joint account (without my express written consent)that they wouldn’t do for me (without her express written consent).

    I’ve always thought it was strange, too.

    Comment by cantinflas — July 6, 2011 @ 8:41 am

  9. are you seriously going to tell me that every joint account you’ve opened with your wife you have both had access from the get-go?

    Yes. I don’t recall any problem like this happening with a joint account. If it’s truly a joint account with both names on it then either person should have full privileges on the account. If that isn’t happening, then it’s not truly a joint account or it was set up without including both names on the signature card or something.

    Comment by MCQ — July 6, 2011 @ 11:17 am

  10. I think it’s both Rusty. I think it is a realization that, though married, the wife is no longer considered property of the husband, i.e. she is a separate entity with equal rights as the man. And in the past, the wife was indeed considered less than equal to the man she was married to.

    Comment by Dan — July 6, 2011 @ 1:09 pm

  11. Recently I went to check one of my husband’s health insurances claims online and couldn’t find it. I contacted customer service directly. They told me that because he is an adult (over 18) he has the right to his privacy, HIPAA laws and all. I can’t access his health information online with our insurance without his consent.

    So, should I blame that on feminism too?

    Comment by Risa — July 6, 2011 @ 7:58 pm

  12. I just blame females. They seem to be the source of all my problems, especially the LDS ones

    Comment by Bret — July 7, 2011 @ 11:54 pm

  13. I just blame females. They seem to be the source of all my problems, especially the LDS ones:P

    Comment by Bret — July 7, 2011 @ 11:55 pm

  14. Welcome to the world of women, Rusty, we’ve had to get permission for decades. What makes men so special that they shouldn’t have to deal with this stomach ache? I stupidly set up a lot of our accounts in Bill’s name, monitor them, manage them, make sure they get paid, but if there’s a problem, he has to give me permission to talk to them because he has no clue what’s going on.

    I deal with this in my job as well. Women will usually shrug off a request for permission from the account owner. Men go ballistic.

    Step on your little toes, did we?

    Comment by annegb — July 10, 2011 @ 9:29 am

  15. My grandmother couldn’t get a checking account without a male signing for it (Argentina 1946).
    I manage all our finances. I’m used to having to get him on the phone to ok me talking about his 401K or whatever. Feminists didn’t cause this. It is just now equal both ways.

    Comment by jks — July 11, 2011 @ 9:26 pm

  16. I’m saying Arlene FTW for the tone of her comment.

    Love it.

    Comment by mfranti — July 12, 2011 @ 4:28 pm

  17. Actually, you may resume blaming feminism. If it weren’t for feminists your wife would still be considered your property and you could do what you like with your account, because you would own her and her privacy and could do with it as you pleased. She’d have no right to object to you making changes to an account with your name, because you would own her name. So the feminist-nazi-loving company is clearly to blame.

    Comment by chris — July 13, 2011 @ 3:53 pm

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