Are we really where we “should” be?

Don - September 2, 2004

Bret’s post and a recent conversation got me to thinking. I’ve done it and I hear it all the time. “I’m glad for the choices I’ve made because they helped make me what I am, and have brought me to such and such point in my life.” To me this is almost a fatalist point of view. “No matter what I choose it’s ok because it makes me what I am.”

I think God loves us so much that he will help make the best result for us from any choice we make. If we make a bad choice, we suffer the consequences but God not only tempers those consequences as much as mercy will allow. Sometimes I think He can even cause greater benefit to come from that choice if we are humble and seek His help.

So we put all these bad choices together with the good choices we make and we end up where we are at….which is better than we deserve because of His mercy.

We thank God for what we have “learned” and the “experience” and the “growth”.

My question is where should we be? Doesn’t it seem logical that we would be a lot better off in our experience, growth and who and where we are if we had made more good choices?

Those people who are grateful for going thru the consequences of their sins seem to forget that they could have been better if they would have made a better choice.

Why be thankful for making poor choices?

1 Comment »

  1. Don,
    Your post reminded me of something President Clark said that was quoted by President Monson a few years ago. It is something to the effect of this: God will give us the maximum reward and the most minimal penalty that He can.”
    Braden | Email | Homepage | 09.02.04 – 7:09 pm | #

    In answer to your first — and not your last — question, I would have to say that NONE of us is where we “should” be except Christ. That is, as you indicated, we could ALL be at least a little further ahead if we were always making correct choices.

    I agree that, thanks to God’s mercy, we can and do gain much from all our choices, good and bad. I commend those who see the positive side and say their poor choices have made them better, but if we are truly trying to be humble, we recognize the truth you stated: we are certainly much better off making good choices.
    Amy | Email | Homepage | 09.03.04 – 12:58 am | #

    My line of thinking in such situations has become “I wish I could have learned these lessons without making the choices I did.” If we’re grateful for making poor choices, then we haven’t truly repented for making those choices.
    Bret | Email | Homepage | 09.03.04 – 12:58 pm | #

    I don’t know if anyone is “grateful” for making poor choices, rather I think we are gratful for what we have learned from the consequences of those choices. Nonetheless, I agree that if we don’t recognize it as a poor choice, then we will continue to “learn the hard way.”
    Rusty | Email | Homepage | 09.03.04 – 2:57 pm | #

    I believe to be grateful for the fact that God has helped me, even though I made the poor choice, and he has put me where I am today. As well, he has helped develop me into the person that I am and I am content in who I am today. As Bret said, “If we’re grateful for making poor choices, then we haven’t truly repented for making those choices.” We are not grateful for the poor choice but that we feel the good now, and the strength now, and THAT is what brought us to become the “better” person. There is nothing to gain in the “self-hate” or “self-pity” of looking back in our lives and wishing things could’ve changed or we could’ve done things “better”.
    Bryce | Email | Homepage | 09.13.04 – 3:46 pm | #

    As I see the constant rise in depression in the members of our church, I also see the constant loss of self-worth due to this sense of failure. I see it as we have been “cut” by the trails. The wound will heal if you take the right steps, and the scar left behind can also be lessened with the right applications. Too many of us begin to pick at the scars left on our body, and hide them, shame them, and never allow them to fully heal over, making for a wound that can be reopened with the right pressures. I teach people, as well as my self, to be proud of our marks. To wear them as “battle scars” of these times, and that it is a sign the Lord has stayed with us and has helped us over come, even in our lowest of times.
    Too oft I feel we are in need of His comfort, and to gain such a thing we must be content in the choices we have made, and the things of our pasts, have put us where we are, and THAT person, even though we have made these “poor choice”, the Lord will still love.
    Bryce | Email | Homepage | 09.13.04 – 3:46 pm |

    Comment by Comment Restore — November 28, 2005 @ 12:37 am

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