The entire debate about gay marriage isn’t so much a debate as it is a list of talking points being contemporaneously aired… there’s no discussion to be had, well, at least not that I’ve seen.
What I’ve seen isn’t encouraging.
The anti-gay marriage camp features spokespeople like James Dobson, whose fear-filled (some say "hate-filled") rhetoric is hard to get past… or legislators from our halls of government who seem to have just discovered the sorry state of modern marriage.
And the pro-gay marriage camp isn’t so much a camp as it’s just plain campy. It’s a cheap shot, I realize, but I’ve seen better logic from horses… and I’m tired of the whining… the whinying… the whatever. I’m tired of hearing about how gays aren’t allowed to marry (which is patently false on a few fronts: commitment ceremonies, whether secular or religious, aren’t illegal; moreover, gays aren’t being denied marriage, as it’s defined — as plenty of people in gay/straight marriages can attest — what they mean to say is "gays aren’t allowed to marry each other". Which is a different discussion… the first phrasing _would_ be a discussion about civil rights. The other is a discussion — TV-unfriendly as it is — about public policy.
But isn’t that what should be happening? Shouldn’t we be having a deep and thorough discussion of the merits (or lack thereof) of the matter?
I’ve not been alive long enough to remember a time when we weren’t this partisan… but I’d like to think that somewhere, way back when, it was possible for legislators and policy wonks alike to have meaningful dialog. But that’s not what’s happening.
Instead, we get right-leaning philanderers telling us that marriage is in trouble… and left-leaning philanderers telling us that marriage is important enough to include gays.
What are your favorite gems from this spectacle we’re calling a national debate… and who do you listen to?
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