So I’ve spent the last little while giving background for my feelings on gay marriage… without really sharing my feelings.
I guess it’s time that I get to the point: I don’t think the government should recognize gay unions as "marriage" for statutory purposes.
It’s natural to want to pair-off… natural for straight couples, and just as natural for gay couples. I know that when I date a guy (assuming it’s going well, of course) I often think how nice it would be to come home to him… to love and be loved… to grow old together. But that’s not what’s at issue, here.
Fundementally, when societies regulate marriage, they should be regulating it on behalf of their vested interest in the rearing of children… and despite all the cruft that’s attached to marriage law (hospital visiting rights and the like), society can justify its meddling in what would otherwise seem like a deeply personal matter because of this vested interest. And it is because of this interest, I believe, that society must vigorously protect its right to discriminate in favor of healthy hetero households in matters touching on the bearing and rearing of children.
So let me pause here for a moment… and make certain that its clear that I’m not advocating that society actively legislate against gay couples or to police homes where children are being raised… as I believe I said earlier in this series, it’s not in society’s best interest to set-up a system that consumes so many resources to run as to make it untenable… and police states are un-tenable because of the necessary input of resources needed to maintain the state’s superior power (which, IMHO, would be an interesting post in and of itself). No: I am not suggesting that the state intrude any further into our homes than it does… which, when the system is working properly, only happens now when physical or sexual abuse is reported, or when there is compelling evidence of neglect; or in matters dealing with appointing guardianship of a minor, in cases of adoption or the like.
So there. I’ve said it.
I’ve laid-out my basic thoughts on the matter… questions? The final installment will be for answering questions asked earlier in the series; questions asked in the comments, below; and questions that have been rattling around in my own head for some time.
I owe Rusty (et al) a big hearty thanks for his willingness to share this space with me for the last little while… and the best way to thank him, will be to exit quickly… so I’ll post my final installment Wednesday evening.
FINAL INSTALLMENT: Q&A