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I Can’t Believe They’re Not Bothered By What Doesn’t Bother Me!

Rusty - March 20, 2006

A few weeks ago we gave a good friend of ours a colorful striped dress shirt for his birthday. The following is an excerpt from an email I received from him a few minutes ago:

I wore the birthday shirt you got me with my suit this past Sunday; it was all the rage in PEC. It looked pretty slick; really light and “breathe-y” too. The bishop pointed out I wasn’t wearing a white shirt and I agreed that I wasn’t and then pointed out that I could have, but then I’d look just as dull and outdated as he did. Then I said that it could have been worse- I could be sleeping like the high priest rep sitting next to me; or I could have not showed up like a couple of other people that should have been there.

All that didn’t really happen, but I wish it had. As I was driving to church I was playing scenarios in my mind trying to think of the wittiest comments to show the ridiculousness of such a concern. I came up with some zingers, but I never had the chance to zing them. It’s ironic that I’m upset that no one focused on what I call a concern not worthy of focus.

I thought this was hilarious. The irony IS so thick for me because perhaps more than anyone I do the same thing. I get pre-emptively bothered that someone would be bothered about something so small. My defensiveness is no better than another’s offense.

If you want a nice, shiny hypocrite, I’m polished and poised.

Note: Let’s please not turn this into the conversation we have every week about white vs. colored shirts. And thank you for your support.


  1. as one forced to wear white shirts on Sunday, I applaud you, sir.

    Comment by BJB — March 20, 2006 @ 8:14 pm

  2. Great post, Rusty! I didn’t spend so much time thinking of witty retorts, but I came to church about a month or so ago with a nice-sized chip on my shoulder, wearing a nice pair of dress slacks. And nobody (nobody) cared. And I wasn’t even the only one. Sister V. also wore a pair of dress slacks, with strappy heals, and she’s 20 years younger than me and really hot. Talk about stealing my thunder.

    Comment by Ann — March 20, 2006 @ 9:46 pm

  3. Ann,
    That’s hilarious. It seems that people care a lot more in our minds than in reality. This could be, in fact, what accounts for much of the ill-will towards the church by former members.

    Comment by Rusty — March 20, 2006 @ 10:03 pm

  4. I do this all the time. Usually, though, I will have to jumpstart the thought process with a subtle comment; then let the witty comments commence! As to former members and obsession with the church, I think it’s because the church is terribly interesting, whether you agree with it or not.

    Comment by Chad — March 21, 2006 @ 12:00 am

  5. How does the old joke go? We’d worry much less over what people think about us if we realized how seldom they do?

    Comment by John Mansfield — March 21, 2006 @ 9:21 am

  6. Why is it so many religions fall into the period clothing trap? How does it happen? How do some religions avoid it?

    Comment by Steve EM — March 21, 2006 @ 10:57 am

  7. The next time somebody gripes at me, I’m going to say, “well, at least I’m not sleeping with Holly.”

    Comment by annegb — March 21, 2006 @ 11:24 am

  8. “The next time somebody gripes at me, I’m going to say, “well, at least I’m not sleeping with Holly.”"


    That may be the king of all non-sequitors and I don’t even know Holly

    Comment by John C. — March 21, 2006 @ 6:25 pm

  9. Rolling on the floor laughing, AnneGB. That’s an awesomely non-sequiturly funny retort. :)

    John C.,

    It may be a non-sequitur, but hey, at least she’s not sleeping with Holly!

    Comment by Kaimi — March 21, 2006 @ 7:54 pm

  10. You guys read Rusty’s post again. He said it first.

    Oops, no he didn’t. Well, I think I’ll use it anyway. I must read more carefully, I’m still in Brokeback Mountain mode.

    Now I’m laughing, too.

    Comment by annegb — March 21, 2006 @ 9:25 pm

  11. Once on my mission I found myself eating with a family who believed that drinking caffeinated soda should keep a person out of the temple. Oh the thoughts that came into my mind. “I guess my father, who happens to be my bishop, will have to hand over his recommend and my mission president too!” These thoughts I kept to myself but to this day I have a hard time not making harsh judgements on this family when I think of them. I have even imagined them at the judgement day being pained because of what they said and believed. Its actually hilarious how ironic our judgements are!

    Comment by cj douglass — March 22, 2006 @ 10:52 am

  12. I’ve had similar disappointments, all too often.
    I really like what John Mansfield said, if I were a pillow embroider-er that would be on my list for embroidered pillow-hood.

    Comment by Starfoxy — March 22, 2006 @ 4:28 pm

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