My wife and I were running late as usual, so we quickly slipped into the last open pew on the side of the chapel. Shortly after we sat down the lady in front of us reached over the next pew up to grab a baby. When she did we noticed her very casual skirt and the tatoo on her lower back.
When she sat back down, she leaned over to the guy next to her and whispered in his ear. He was wearing clean blue jeans and what appeared to be a nice athletic jersey T-shirt.
They refused the sacrament.
After sacrament was over I introduced myself and my wife and asked if they were visiting the friends in the row in front of them. The lady said no, they were new in the ward and that family had given them a ride. Fortunately a few others also came up and introduced themselves.
I looked for them in S.S. and priesthood but didn’t see them. After priesthood I asked the ride giver who they were. He explained she was expecting, was living with the guy – her boyfriend and she was a member who wants to come back and her boyfriend is a non-member.
Our ward is one of those where women have been able to lower “The Standard” to jean skirts and flip flops, but men are white shirt and ties only!!! How out of place did this guy feel? What could I or someone said to make him feel more at ease? Is it better just to let him look around and figure it out?
Sometimes I wish we were more laid back in our “dress code”.
It reminds me of a Bishop who said, “The best smell at church is smoke”.