I’m old enough to have had all the kids we’re going to have, six. It was the perfect number for us, 3 girls, then we figured out what we were doing and had 3 boys.
Compared to other families in our ward and stake we were an average family. We knew many who had 9, 10, 12+. We were comfortable with our family size.
As the years have gone by the family size has shrunk, outside the church but even more so inside the church.
Why is this happening? Is it the “me” generation, more worried about me than having children. Children cost too much so we better cut back or we’ll miss out on things. There’s a stigma of having too many kids now that there wasn’t then.
I don’t hear the brethern talk much about family size, they used to, at least indirectly. I think part of it might also be the peer pressure of looking around and seeing smaller families, so don’t rock the boat, don’t be different by having more than a couple of kids.
For those of you with young families now, any of you with 4 or more? What is the feedback you get in and out of the church? Does the feedback change for you who may have 5 or 6?
Why have the brethern quit talking about the “women’s responsibility” of being a mother, blessings of raising a family, a mothers role, and such things that used to be quite common?