It seems to me that everytime we choose we either limit future choices or we expand future choices. Maybe it’s just me, but it feels like my choices are getting more limited. And I’ve noticed that the choices that others make effect me and limit my choices even more.
Let say my wife doesn’t work in the bridal store a particular day. That limits my choices.
Or the bank decides not to give me the loan I need to remodel and expand. That limits my choices.
Or some gang member comes by sprays graffiti all over our building. That limits my choices.
Some might say that those things that happen just give me a new set of choices to make, so I still have a wide open world of choices. Some would say that other’s actions as I’ve pointed out doesn’t change my agency at all, I still have agency and I can choose anything I want.
I feel that if another person’s choice effects me then that limits me. I have to deal with the consequences of their actions. If my wife doesn’t come to work then it limits what I can do. The work that she would have done doesn’t get done, or maybe I choose to do it and neglect something I would have chosen to do if she were there. I certainly can’t work with her, consult on something that comes up or assign something to her if she’s not there.
My feeling is if she does come to work then I have all the options open to me including those same options as if she were not there.
Same with the bank. No loan, I have to scramble with other options for financing, or not do the remodeling and expansion at all. If I get the loan, I still have the same options – I can scramble for other financing and use it if I choose, or I can still decide not to do the remodeling and expansion. Without the loan – limited choices, with the loan more choices.
I don’t know if I’m making sense, but I sure feel frustrated when choices others make effect me so much.