Meeting people from the Internet in real life

Susan M - February 25, 2008

It’s especially fun when people have goofy online screen names. I’ve had conversations very similar to this:

“Are you Bloodplasm? I’m qsysue. This is Sparklemama, Anchovie, and sludgeking2004.”

Last Thursday I was at a show at a restaurant/bar, and I had two different people come up to me, asking, “Are you Sue?” One was a guy I’ve talked music with on Facebook. Another was a guy from a music web forum I post on. I’ve had that experience at shows a lot—almost always someone from the music web forum. (I’ve met more people from the music forum than any other place—just about any show I go to, I’m liable to know someone who is there, via that forum.)

I’ve only met one person in real life via LDS blogs, Mike D. Who isn’t technically a blogger, but he comments. I did once figure out that someone else commenting on the blogs was in my ward, but he ended up deciding to quit the blogs.

I am going to be having lunch this week with a bunch of women LDS bloggers, though, almost all of whom write solo blogs. I’ll try to report back.

I know there’s lots of bloggersnackers being planned in different areas right now. MikeinWeHo tried to get one going in LA and I think I was the only response he received. Where are all the LA bloggers?

So who have you met via the Internet, and how did it go? I know some of my co-bloggers had a get together awhile back.

Everyone I’ve met via the Internet has been super cool. I think online, people tend to be a bit more opinionated or obnoxious that they are in real life. Someone you might think is a complete jerk online can be very nice in real life. Funny how that works.


  1. I have never been to a snacker, but I’d like to one day. It’s funny, because about half of the people I “blog with” are already friends and/or family.

    I will have to say, though, that Seth R. is so much smarter than I thought. No, no, don’t misunderstand me. When Seth and I hung out (a bazillion years ago), he was still embarking on his education. So when I read his comments, I can’t help but think “Wow! Seth is so much smarter now!” And he is. Smart, I mean.

    Comment by Cheryl — February 25, 2008 @ 5:18 pm

  2. Funny. I just posted about my first internet/real life encounter. I was in Florida on buisness and met with a fellow blogger during some free time. It was great.

    Comment by Latter-Day Sustainablist — February 25, 2008 @ 5:36 pm

  3. I still haven’t met anybody I first met online. Maybe someday.

    Comment by Summer — February 25, 2008 @ 6:13 pm

  4. Susan M,

    We’ve met. What am I chop liver?

    Comment by Brian G — February 25, 2008 @ 7:18 pm

  5. Whoops. I knew I’d forget somebody in this post. Sorry Brian! It has been a few years, though, right? We should have a get together. I might even be able to talk my husband into it.

    Comment by Susan M — February 25, 2008 @ 9:16 pm

  6. I have always wondered how it would be to meet people I know from blogging. My imagination tells me it would be weird. Even seeing a picture of someone for the first time can freak me out for awhile. I also have the sense that if people saw me I would be instantly discredited. Not that I am not discredited, but that came over a long period of time where I got to say things to discredit myself, it wasn’t instantaneous.

    Comment by Jacob J — February 25, 2008 @ 11:49 pm

  7. I have always wondered how it would be to meet people I know from blogging. My imagination tells me it would be weird. Even seeing a picture of someone for the first time can freak me out for awhile. I also have the sense that if people saw me I would be instantly discredited. Not that I am not discredited, but that came over a long period of time where I got to say things to discredit myself, it wasn’t instantaneous like it would be if people saw me.

    Comment by Jacob J — February 25, 2008 @ 11:50 pm

  8. Oh wow. I’ve met a lot of people I first met online now- and you’re right- they’be been absolutely cool- all of ‘em.

    Let’s see… I’ve met Supergenius and his lovely wife, Mo Mommy, J Stapely, Molly Benion, Aaron Brown, Mark IV, Kristine Haglund, John Dehlin- I know there were more, but off the top of my head, that’s a pretty nice list!

    Comment by tracy m — February 25, 2008 @ 11:51 pm

  9. Oh yes, I forgot 9M always tells me it timed out and couldn’t update when it has already posted. I must remember this in the future.

    Comment by Jacob J — February 26, 2008 @ 12:23 am

  10. I knew Molly Bennion in my old Seattle ward before she started blogging. She’s the best RS teacher I’ve ever had. Well her and one other woman in another WA ward.

    Comment by Susan M — February 26, 2008 @ 8:04 am

  11. I mostly lurk (and have done so for years). So, my problem is that I have a very one-sided relationship.

    I know you, but you have no idea who I am. And that makes me feel a little bit stalker-ish.

    So, I normally keep to myself…

    Comment by Liz W. — February 26, 2008 @ 11:21 am

  12. Back in 1984 — well before the Web — I spent time on several local (San Diego) computer ‘bulletin board systems’ (BBSs), which you can think of as a blog with no postings and a single, never-ending comments section. (Also, typically, only one person could be on the BBS at a time, since you had to dial into it with a direct modem-to-modem link in order to read entries and post your own.)

    Anyway, one of the regular posters on this one BBS (People’s Message System #1, run by Bill Blue) suggested that we go skydiving together. About a dozen of us signed up, and we met at the skydiving school up in Perris Valley (about halfway between San Diego and San Bernadino). For most of us, that was the first time we had ever met face to face.

    We all lived, by the way, though I was banged up enough by my landing to go into a readi-care center the next day to be sure I hadn’t actually cracked or broken anything. ..bruce..

    Comment by bfwebster — February 26, 2008 @ 1:33 pm

  13. Thanks Cheryl… I think…

    Of course, it’s possible that the difference is solely due to the fact I wasn’t married at the time. My spurious pet theory is that guys simply get smarter when they are no longer in strutting-mode trying to attract a mate.

    On the other hand, I’ve always thought I sounded more coherent in writing than in person…

    Aside from Cheryl, I don’t think I’ve met any of you in person.

    Comment by Seth R. — February 26, 2008 @ 3:20 pm

  14. Seth-
    Totally a compliment. ;)

    Comment by Cheryl — February 26, 2008 @ 7:28 pm

  15. Eeep! I wanted to meet you last summer, Susan! Do you remember? We were in Disneyland for 3 days, and time was so tight and I literally had no access to a computer or internet, that I wasn’t able to make an arrangement ahead of time.

    I still want to show you my U2 stuff and have you come over and listen to records next time you’re in the Bay Area. Really!

    I hate living so far away from everyone!

    Comment by meems — February 27, 2008 @ 12:58 pm

  16. Yeah it’s too bad we couldn’t get together while you were here. That’s the problem with vacationing/traveling, though—never enough time to squeeze everything in!

    Comment by Susan M — February 27, 2008 @ 4:37 pm

  17. ldsustainablist- how strange, I too had a a run-in with someone from the bloggernacle recently while on business….

    Back in high school, um, well there was this really cool Star Wars fan forum, and, um, come to find out like half the people I knew on that thing were BYU students. PJ? Darth Legs? Are you out there? This is Hiroko… : D

    Comment by mellifera — February 28, 2008 @ 12:04 pm

  18. I’m an LA blogger, but I don’t get around the other blogs as much as many of you do (although I am still pretty new– started Sept. 2007). I’m still amazed how many LDS sites there are out there– and how many types! Nothing homogenized about this membership.

    Comment by David T. — February 28, 2008 @ 11:17 pm

  19. I met a young man once from an LDS forum as he was coming here to visit his sister stationed near my city. He had fun as I introduced him to Young Single Adults here.

    There is somebody in your area that I have wanted to meet for a long time, Susan. I have had such a huge crush on him and know him from LDS forums. But I better not say his name because I don’t want to embarass him. I don’t know if he is in your ward or not. He is in 2nd ward, I think(Mid-Singles). I have not received an email for him for a year and half, which is half the time I have known him. It was sad to realize that. I have never talked on the phone with him let alone meet him. Well, it is has been so much fun just wanting to meet him. I know how all of this must sound. It has actually been rather entertaining to me to have such feelings as long as I don’t go completely off the deep end.

    Comment by Barb — February 29, 2008 @ 8:18 pm

  20. Hey Susan!…I’m David, just want to meet people from everywhere!…I’m a blogger. I have my own blog. if you wanna check it out. that’d be nice!. have a nice day!.

    Comment by David — March 27, 2008 @ 9:04 am

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