“Are there experiences or qualities that tend to disqualify people for certain callings?”
This was asked on this BCC thread. A good question. As someone who participates in the discussions which lead to the extension of callings, I am in the awkward/uncomfortable position of making judgments on a member’s potential participation in a calling. (This shouldn’t be a newsflash to anyone, but determining who should be called to what is almost always much more perspiration than inspiration. I blogged about this in more detail here, but the short version is that I believe the Lord calls people because there are those who need to be served, not because you need a certain calling). I’m uncomfortable with this for many reasons, most of which revolve around the fact that I don’t like that my personal views and prejudices can potentially affect others, often to a great extent.
With that said, there are some things which, and I want to be perfectly clear, aren’t AUTOMATIC disqualifiers (which can be and have been discussed elsewhere), rather they put us in a difficult position for determining a prospect’s suitability for certain callings:
Never going to pre/post-3hr-block meetings: I’d like to believe that these people are doubling up their service in the calling rather than coming to the meetings but in my experience if you’re not coming to most of your meetings then your engagement in the calling itself is likely less than optimal.
Drama creators: There are people who can create drama out of little or nothing and seek to sustain it when it should have long since disappeared. The funny thing about this one is that nobody ever considers themselves a part of this category.
Happy face to the bishop, sad face to everyone else: These are those who won’t communicate their struggles/boundaries/needs to the bishop(ric), but complain to ward members that we overlooked such things.
Easily offended: When your default is set to “they did it on purpose” then little service can happen.
Abrasive/harsh/”I just say it like it is”/offensive: This can be a good quality in certain instances, but in a church setting those instances are far, far outnumbered by the cases in need of tact and holding one’s tongue. (Why do people brag about how they are the kind of people who just say it like it is? You mean your social skills haven’t developed beyond those of a 6 year old? Brilliant.)
Those with Pets: not animal pets, but pet issues they talk about in every testimony and in every lesson.
Just plain busy: what can I say about this one? People need to be served, even by those who are busy. This is a tough one.
Like I said, these are not automatic disqualifiers, they are just issues beyond worthiness that add to the complexity of extending callings. I’m sure there are many, many more I’m overlooking.